How would you feel if you’re struck but you cannot hit back?
What would you feel if someone kicked, punched, pinched, and hit you every single day that you meet?
What if you were bitten, spit at and shouted at almost everyday?
Would you scream back? Would you fight back? Would you hit back?
His arm hit me suddenly near the eye. Before I could react there was another one that hit me full in the chest.
I knew there was a next one, so I shielded my head with my hand hoping to break his barrage by catching his arms mid strike.
Suddenly, WHAM! His feet hit my shins. I simply couldn’t fight back.
Suddenly, the hitting stopped.
I couldn’t retaliate. Still, I braced myself knowing that there will be a next wave of attacks. I deftly caught his hand mid strike this time. Then, I prepared myself for his other hand which I caught immediately. Both his hands now are pinned down by mine. Then the legs came, I quickly locked his kicking leg between mine. Then, I acted quickly. I placed the table between us. Now, it would take some effort before he could hit me anywhere.
This three-foot bundle of mayhem couldn’t do me any harm now.
Yes, standing two or three feet, this one’s one big bundle of kicks and slaps.
What may sound as akin to bullying is actually what usually happens to me at work. Yes, that’s my job or at least part of my job. Part of my job is to be at the receiving end of hits, kicks, pinches, punches, bites, and saliva. Though it may sound like harsh job, it actually isn’t. When you’re dealing with kids, expect that most of them would have temper tantrums, bad days and frustrations with their kiddie limitations. Still, it’s the best job in the world.
In my short tenure of working with children with special needs, I have been bitten, kicked, punched and spat at many times than I could remember. Not that these kids are bad or anything, sometimes you’ll just have to find out the reason why they’re doing this. Most times they had a bad day and you’re just adding insult to their injury. Sometimes it’s just that they’re frustrated that they couldn’t do what you’re asking them to do. Sometimes, and this one I truly hate, they’re just not used to being ordered around.
It doesn’t take a genius to know the spoiled kid from the anxious or frustrated ones. Any child gets spoiled when he or she is given the feeling that everything is at his or her hands. These kids are the most pampered. They think everything is theirs for the taking and no one could order them around. Their parents not allowing any punishment, not even verbal reprimands, to control them. They are treated as kings of their houses.
Anyone might remember a time when you thought everything was yours, that you were the best, that you were the only one that has to be noticed by your parents. Those were times when we were kids. Those were times when we thought that we could get everything that we ever wanted. We were spoiled at one time or another.
This is actually the after effects of being a baby. Helpless though they maybe, babies are driven by their desires and wants. They cry when they are hungry, tired or cold. They cry when they wet themselves or when they wake up. They cry to get anything they wanted. Since they are helpless, mothers usually attend to every single whimper, thus they get what they want and they get it fast. They learn that they could get whatever they want from this mother. Thus when they’re passed infancy, some of this knowledge remain. If unlearned and they continue to be treated as kings, they could be spoiled brats.
Then, I might be totally wrong.
Or maybe not. Come to think of it, this feeling of being a king or queen of the world resurfaces in a different package. As adults we try to find pleasure, entertainment, and enjoyment on petty things. Like babies, we try to get the attention of everyone, seeking to fulfill our desires. We’re still babies deep down. We’re still spoiled and pampered only at a restrained and more civilized level.
Probably we could say that deep within us the baby king is still kicking and screaming. Sometimes we’re just crafty enough to control it or satiate it temporarily. Sometimes we just don’t realize that we’re being controlled by our desire to pleasures.
“And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;
And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.
Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.”
“Wherefore henceforth know we no man after the flesh: yea, though we have known Christ after the flesh, yet now henceforth know we him no more.
Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation”
2 Corinthians 5:16-18